Grief

Grief 

At some point in everyone's life, they will experience death. Every person knows this but not everybody completely understand how grief can be extremely difficult for others. Grief is an emotion that is particularly tricky to overcome. Many people who suffer from grief feel as if they will never be able to cope with their loss. The feelings of sadness and hopelessness that accompany a loss weaken over time. Grief take an emotional toll on your mind and body, it can lead to a severe depression if not treated or payed attention to. 

There are 5 stages of grief says researchers, although everybody experiences grief differently thess are the most common phases. First is denial, when one first recognizes a loss they tend to be “numb” or in shock. The body and mind forces this as a temporary way to deal with the rush of emotion. Technically when our body does this, it’s our defense mechanism. However, the extent or visibility of someone’s denial may not really be the issue at hand. What’s important is not that people recognize their denial, but that they are able to accept what they are feeling that leads to the denial in the first place.

The second stage is anger, shortly after reality kicks back in, your forced to face the loss. Many people tend to feel frustrated and helpless, this later turns into anger. To be angry at a loved one for passing own, this isn't abnormal. This is common within most losses people experience. The psychical effects of anger can be brutal because the adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol.The brain shunts blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase, the body temperature rises and the skin perspires. The mind is sharpened and focused.

Bargaining is the third stage, in this phase one dwells on what they could have done to prevet the loss of their loved one. Occasionally some individuals may try to strike a deal with a higher power such as God in return to have healing or relief. Bargaining can come in a variety of promises including, "God, if you can heal this person I will turn my life around.", "I promise to be better if you will let this person live.", "I'll never get angry again if you can stop him/her from dying or leaving me."

After bargaining, comes depression. Depression is typical with somebody who is in grief. During this time sadness sets in and one begins to understand the loss and its effect on life. Signs of depression include, lack of sleep, little to no appetite, over sleeping, loss of interest of things, and anxiety. When noticing these signs within yourself or someone else it is important to reach out to get some help. Forcing yourself to interact socially can help reduce the stress and sadness. Along with caring for a pet, having an animal to help comfort yourself can also indeed reduce stress and sadness. 

In the end is acceptance, one can finally accept the reality of their loss. Although one can still stay sad and upset, their able to start moving forward with their life. After acceptance you can start noticing yourself or others being more physical and socially interactive. They might seem like their selves again. Many can feel, pride, wisdom, validation, self-compassion, and good enough. Their now able to adapt, cope, and respond skillfully. 

Grief is more than common, but understanding how to help yourself and other people through grief is most important. Not everyone will feel the same emotions, or carry the same weight as others when experiencing loss. It’s useful to inform other people about the effects of grief, so they understand how to react the next time they come into contact with the loss of a loved one.Grief 

At some point in everyone's life, they will experience death. Every person knows this but not everybody completely understand how grief can be extremely difficult for others. Grief is an emotion that is particularly tricky to overcome.  Many people who suffer from grief feel as if they will never be able to cope with their loss. The feelings of sadness and hopelessness that accompany a loss weaken over time. Grief take an emotional toll on your mind and body, it can lead to a severe depression if not treated or payed attention to. 

There are 5 stages of grief says researchers, although everybody experiences grief differently thess are the most common phases. First is denial, when one first recognizes a loss they tend to be “numb” or in shock. The body and mind forces this as a temporary way to deal with the rush of emotion. Technically when our body does this, it’s our defense mechanism. However, the extent or visibility of someone’s denial may not really be the issue at hand. What’s important is not that people recognize their denial, but that they are able to accept what they are feeling that leads to the denial in the first place.

The second stage is anger, shortly after reality kicks back in, your forced to face the loss. Many people tend to feel frustrated and helpless, this later turns into anger. To be angry at a loved one for passing own, this isn't abnormal. This is common within most losses people experience.  The psychical effects of anger can be brutal because the adrenal glands flood the body with stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol.The brain shunts blood away from the gut and towards the muscles, in preparation for physical exertion. Heart rate, blood pressure and respiration increase, the body temperature rises and the skin perspires. The mind is sharpened and focused.

Bargaining is the third stage, in this phase one dwells on what they could have done to prevet the loss of their loved one. Occasionally some individuals may try to strike a deal with a higher power such as God in return to have healing or relief. Bargaining can come in a variety of promises including, "God, if you can heal this person I will turn my life around.", "I promise to be better if you will let this person live.", "I'll never get angry again if you can stop him/her from dying or leaving me."

After bargaining, comes depression. Depression is typical with somebody who is in grief. During this time sadness sets in and one begins to understand the loss and its effect on life. Signs of depression include, lack of sleep, little to no appetite, over sleeping, loss of interest of things, and anxiety. When noticing these signs within yourself or someone else it is important to reach out to get some help. Forcing yourself to interact socially can help reduce the stress and sadness. Along with caring for a pet, having an animal to help comfort yourself can also indeed reduce stress and sadness. 

In the end is acceptance, one can finally accept the reality of their loss. Although one can still stay sad and upset, their able to start moving forward with their life. After acceptance you can start noticing yourself or others being more physical and socially interactive. They might seem like their selves again. Many can feel, pride, wisdom, validation, self-compassion, and good enough. Their now able to adapt, cope, and respond skillfully. 

Grief is more than common, but understanding how to help yourself and other people through grief is most important. Not everyone will feel the same emotions, or carry the same weight as others when experiencing loss. It’s useful to inform other people about the effects of grief, so they understand how to react the next time they come into contact with the loss of a loved one.