Oh My Friend!!!

Powerlessness seems to be caused primarily by an inability to choose in a way we're happy with. Mainly this can occur when we're in situations we don't like.Powerlessness may further be explained as the lack of strength or the absence of power.

Every one is born with great powers ,the gift of the god,the ability to destroy the world.by the childhood to old age man sees dream with the great power of achieving them.I think all born with this desire but it is the bad luck of a man that every one destroys others in order to persaude their own success. feeling of powerlessness is the product of a mixture of repressed emotions, of fear, anger, sadness and event disgust, neutralised by shame or fear etc. This feeling often has its roots in childhood when the subject was curbed in their emotional dynamics but the parental reactions and injunctions.There are some great words

"Man is not made to defeat he can be deatroyed but can't be defeated"

Scientists have found that people who feel powerless actually see the world differently, and find a task to be more physically challenging than those with a greater sense of personal and social power. we found that powerless individuals were less inclined to express their anger directly but more inclined to express it indirectly by sharing it with others. 

According to me the man strenghts are its weakness and he can only be destroyed by directly attacking too its power .In reality it seems that the power has finished but they are still there .Due to attacks(mental abuses,hurdles of the way And insult on achievements)the man become totally hope less and stop giving nourishment to its power which may result in de-focusing

Soon my good friend also passess from this circumstance .that was the time when Cutting jokes ,putting laughters and live happy with all his hobbies.As there is a common saying that ,

"No one remains same as he is till the end"

He tries to make everyone happy but he was not rewarded by a result .Instead of putting smile on his face every one leaves him one by one. He was not just emotionally targeted but also his achievements were not praised .he is a intelligent student with great reputation and good marks but he continuously disgusted by a people talks.Past social projection research has mainly focused on target characteristics as a moderator of projective effects. The current research considers the power of the perceiver and how it affects projection of competence and warmth.

The Question arises that why he should listen to them?

when the person is lonely and have no one to share his extras and de-extras his loneliness leads to negative emotions .It is psychologically proved.Hence ,again the same cicumstance

now he is also trying to balancing his professional life .Now you again think that where is his Powerlessness ,Every thing is alright and the life is going perfect.So let me give the answer he seems to be right but he isn't .he works professionaly in the much young age,the age in which other people play and have hangouts with there friends . this is all because of being a friendless and a fear of losing every thing.When powerlessness is "learned", it becomes self-perpetuating, even if the external forces are no longer there. An abused child may grow up to feel permanently powerless as an adult, even though his/her parents no longer have physical or economic power over him/her.  

from childhood to 16 he just lose every thing now he don't even have a hope to acheive any thing this all his because of his powerlessness which came through the selfish people . he is doing hard work but he still thought that he is nothing he forget his aim and doing any work just to keep himself busy .he even forget that what is his skills and what's the passion.

Now the again question arise in your mind that if this story is of my friend than where was I and why I am saying his friendless?we just came friends few months ago .By nature ,we have developed a very strong bond in very less time the story contain the most part after I meet him and the some part ,He told me and some is the result of our understanding . it is all about his early life and present . but the state of in between is very difficult.the night he passess by crying and days he spend alone . Actualy the power is in men by birth but it was destroyed but if it is overcomed than the person become become more stronger and than he can't destroyed.I also want him to see strong so that's why i do friendship.His lost friend list is much bigger so that's why he also think that he lost me so he finished friendship and its my bad luck that i am failed to changed him But i am happy that he supported himself but still stressed.

we concluded that,

"the man after breakdown become stronger than the normaL"   The first step to overcoming learned powerlessness is to learn to feel entitled to your personal rights. You have the right to live a life free from physical, emotional, sexual, and financial mistreatment. You have the right to be treated with respect, to earn a livable income, to be informed of matters that affect you, and to express yourself freely (without harming others). Most importantly, you have the right to ask for what you need (even though you may be turned down) and to fight for what you need and want (even if you are turned down!). This list of "legitimate entitlements" is easier to read than to experience. Most people who have learned powerlessness barely feel entitled to speak, let alone to speak freely. Often professional therapy is necessary to overcome the ingrained patterns. Never the less, to overcome learned powerlessness, you must gradually, haltingly, but persistently lay claim to each and every human right, one after the other.It is immoral for powerless people to accept there powerlessness