Text Talk about Life, Loss, Love, and Leaving this World

Text Talk about Life, Loss, Love, and Leaving this World

Moms:

I'm sad to lose Sue but happy she had a mild passing. She put her head on her son Paul's shoulder, smiled a tear, and then went to be with her loved ones – her husband, two sisters, parents, and others… Just as I will joyfully unite with mine, albeit not wanting to leave so soon…

I will watch from afar and patiently wait with family, friends, and others. Think of me just in the other room and live your lives fully, cheerfully, with Love.

Always & 4everXxx Nini Moms

Kit:

I know you will always be near

You will be with everyone you love and who loves you

Moms:

Thank you, Kit. I don't want to leave because there are things I'd like to do, like writing notes and regaining the energy to clean and organize the house. But I am physically ready to go. It's way past time! I think of Petey, only in his 30s, working a caretaking job all day and then helping me out at home. He wants to take some courses and work maybe where he interacts with people (and not be so solitary). He says he wants to play basketball in town on Wednesday nights at 8:30 p.m. June says her husband plays weekly pickup ball. Maybe he and Dard can put a basket above the garage door to shoot some hoops. Or get out with Tripp to catch some waves, go to the Fort to play tennis that he used to like so much. He'll find his niche! I just want him to move forward and know how kind, gentle, patient, and fun he was with me!

Milder temps coming on Sund'y. Sweet Nella can go to a playground outside, and you two won't freeze your Conerkees off going to the library, music class, or on errands. After this ‘ruff’ winter, get some outside playtime in. Sending hope for some outside temps starting Sunday!

I LV You Kit, JT & Darling Nella & Heart Hugs to NC Fam there

Your NiniMoms

NM:)

Kit:

It may be time for your physical body, but your soul will continue to do plenty.

As for Petey, we have to trust that he will find his way…

And yes, looking forward to warmer temps!

Moms:

I'm looking forward to reconnecting with all the souls and spirits who took their last sunsets too soon! I wish I dared to ask whether they had any nitty-gritty questions. Were they scared?! Some books cover people's experiences to comfort all of us, but that's reading, not feeling.

Enjoy SUND'Y and a mild start to the beginning of February. I hope the blanket for Nella was cozy, not too hot, but just Enough! Big 'enuf' to cover parents and their babes.

P.S.: Tickets on sale for the medium I like. May shows in Portland (and some in Boston). He knows, as I know now, that Life, leaving, and loss are all about Love. Not much else matters; material things fade away…LOVE Lasts, NiniMoms

Kit:

I'm sure many people are scared.

Especially if they are unsure of what to expect.

I remember Grampy was not unsure or scared - at all.

He was confident and calm and knew where he was going. He consistently maintained his faith.

I channel my inner Gramps in times like these.

How would he feel? How would he approach this?

I wonder if everyone's experience with death is as varied as their personalities and lives but just woven together with the same human thread.

This is your very own experience and will always be.

I recently read a book by a talented psychologist – it touches on the anxiety and uncertainty around death. I found it comforting.

One thing the author suggested is to think about dying as going to the place before you were born as a baby. If we think about it, aren't we going back to that same place? The place we have been before? Home maybe?

Moms:

Aww Me. I am not able to enjoy Life. Not able to see your kids, grandkids, the ocean, friends, or go up and down stairs. As Katherine Hepburn says, "I'm a Bore, a Bore!" :( And it's difficult for Petey and Dard and all of you. It's difficult for me to even move around on dot org…

Aka =LIFE!

I just saw what you said about the book. Thanks, Kit. Always great to read encouraging words of wisdom from you.

Love Your Mutha'

Kit:

One thing is for sure: You have never been and will never be a bore! Be sure of that!

Moms:

Hahaha… Awww Me! That's gooood to know. Maybe my strong coffee keeps Petey and Dard awake, too.

XO

Moms:

Sorry getting late here... so, read this tmrw…

LV the words by the author. I do like to think of it as Homeward Bound. And, yes, my Father had such an acceptance with grace concerning His Soul moving on. His kindness of heart, sense of fun and humor, and straightforwardness were such a great mix! He maintained a cheerful outlook on Life and a touch of Theology. He had a way of showing humility, genuine care, and concern, comforting someone during a loss. He decided to become a priest when his younger brother did not survive after getting cold and riding in the back seat of a car after swimming. He was pious but not outward or overly, but in a way that was touching. Our Mom was down-to-earth in different ways and kept us grounded. We were lucky to have such a blend.

I am very ready to leave my body now… My days are like the "Ground Hog Day" movie. It's the same day but getting more debilitating. Days & nights can be long. Your baby brother maintains a cheerful attitude with me. Dard does, too, but he is sore with his foot and needs to rest. Then it's my bedtime and time to get my legs up on the sofa. It's lights out, but the TV is on to lull me to sleep. Petey gets me to the potty b4 his work @ 6 a.m. He opens the curtains & makes coffee b4 he leaves. Dard will go back upstairs to rest but likes getting to the garage to work on cars. He is tinkering with Tripp's car tonight.

I did my share of "better or worse" all those years raising you kids while he worked construction on the road or late nights on houses. Now, he is going through it all with me. But Petey didn't need to sign up in his 30s as a caretaker for his Mother. :( He doesn't complain, but I am ready! I needed to tell sister Cassie that it was "Time." She didn't know I needed oxygen a lot and that I couldn't get out to meet for a lunch date with our lifelong friends. I would enjoy seeing my sisters & my family, but I'm not up for others. :(

I would be ok with you calling the people who took over the funeral parlor from your sister's service, the one Tilly used to own. I just want to set things up b4 hand... I'm ok with it all. I'm accepting of it now, Kit.

Love to You, JT & Sweet Heart Nella. Always let her know just how much I LOVE her and miss being physically a part of her Life. But as in Hey Jude... Paul asked John, "Should I leave this line in? "The movement you need is on your shoulder; it will be me." John said, "Leave it in, Mate, I Love it," & I LV All of U, Ur Mom

Moms:

Mornin' Kit- Petey needed to get me up @ 4 a.m. Went to work at 4:30 since he had an appt @ 9a …

Ugh, no sun today! I have hot spots on my legs that get big and swollen. I put your homemade cream on them when hurting b4 it breaks open, and it helps! My breathing is labored, so Petey places oxygen near me to help control it. I am so ready to 'Go' with my body going down, but my Spirit won't give Up! As I said, Petey has maintained a positive demeanor with me and ensures that I am fed and cared for, as Dard needs to go back to bed to rest his foot. Petey helps me get up in the a.m. and then sits me up on pillows b4 he leaves.

Ah me!! "Don't Cry for me, Argentina" (So to speak). I'm Ready! My body just won't give in & up. Dard hasn't been able to do his usual cleaning or organizing since his surgery and infection. The two of us, with our in-home nurses visiting! He wouldn't let me order an open-back shoe (a clog for indoors and outdoors). So, he cuts the back of his shoe out or wears a sandal-like footwear with not much support. He's so stubborn!

I will ask my hospice nurse if my swollen legs & hot spots with pain would give me a pass to go to the hospital or hospice care there. We shall see. Sorry for all the cleanout you will need to do here at the house. I'm not physically able to do it or go thru my clothes… I say just put it in a Tupperware & you'll get to it eventually! Some good pieces and some leather jackets. Oh, and my Opal ring that Dard bought me and they cut off in the hospital in 2013 during my "big sleep." I used to think that ring was too fancy, but I came to luv the rich colors in it. Good Luck with it All. LV U, Ur NiniMoms & Squenches to Our Doll Baby Gurrrl

Kit:

Hope you can get as comfortable as possible today, Mom. This weekend, I will be available to visit.

I'm available today if you'd like to chat.

For now, for you:

"The self is beyond birth, death, gender, class, and religion- only the body wears those labels."

-Baba Hari Dass

"Rippling refers to the fact that each of us creates- often without our conscious intent or knowledge - concentric circles of influence that may affect others for years, even generations. That is, the effect we have on other people is, in turn, passed on to others, much as the ripples in the pond go on and on until they're no longer visible but continuing at a nano level."

We leave something of ourselves even beyond our knowing."

– Irvin Yalom

We love you.

Nini Moms:

Continued ripples that connect us in the circle of Life via Earth-bound or Ephemeral ways.

Mind and heart can meet without spoken words but through a human touch and Love.

LV U, NM