When One Door Closes, Another Door Opens

“When one door closes, another door opens, but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”

– Alexander Graham Bell –

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one, which has been opened for us.”

– Helen Keller –

These two quotes are so true! Read them again and think about them.

Most people are too attached to the past, to what they are familiar with, and therefore, miss opportunities that stand right in front of them.

Doors may close, but there are always, other, unlimited number of doors – new opportunities. The world is full of opportunities, if we could only see them. The Infinite Power is boundless, and so the possibilities are without number.

Not every plan works out. Sometimes, there are losses and failures. Sometimes, there are problems in relationships. Sometimes, people lose their money or job, or meet other unpleasant things.

We don’t always have control over these events, but we can exercise control over our mind and attitude.

When one of these events happens, and we focus our attention on the loss – the closed door, we see only a closed door with the resultant frustration and unhappiness.

If we could only move our sight and attention away from the closed door, we might be surprised to discover new, open doors.

It might not be so easy to move our eyes elsewhere, due to attachment to the old and familiar, and fear of the new and the unknown.

If you find it difficult to stop the stream of uncontrolled negative thoughts, your mind would keep focusing on the loss, failure, and frustration – on the door that has closed. Would these thoughts help you in any way, or they will create suffering, and prevent change and improvement?

You may agree with what is being said here, but how can you free yourself from past attachments and see the new opportunities? How can you bring yourself to see, and enter the new doors that open for you?

To enter, you need to make some effort:

• You will need to be more aware of your thoughts.
• Desire to free yourself from thoughts that keep you stuck in one place.
• Develop some degree of self-discipline.
• Develop a certain degree of concentration ability and control of your mind.
• Take advantage of the power of affirmations and visualization.
• A certain degree of inner peace would also be useful. It will help you reject unwanted, negative thoughts, and become more open-minded, positive and happy. When your mind it at peace, it would be easier for you to detach yourself from the past, keep an open mind, and therefore, see more clearly the new doors that open for you.

Don’t forget, when one door closes another one opens.

You have probably heard the following words many times, “you should have a positive attitude…”.

Have wondered what is the meaning of these words? Have you wondered why positive attitude matters?

In this post, I would like to offer a few explanations and definitions about the meaning of positive attitude.

When do people tell you that you need to dump your negative attitude and adopt a positive one? They tell you that when you are negative, expect failure, and doubt your abilities. They try to encourage you to be positive, and want you have more confidence and belief in yourself.

Here are a few definitions:

1. Positive attitude is a state of mind that envisions and expects favorable results.
2. The willingness to try doing new things<.>
3. The belief that everything would turn all right.
4. It is an attitude that helps you see the good in people.
5. It is a mental attitude that sees the good and the accomplishments in your life, rather than the negative and the failures.
6. A positive attitude is a mindset that helps you see and recognize opportunities.
7. Positive attitude means positive thinking.
8. It is optimism and maintaining a positive mindset.
9. It is a mental attitude that focuses on the bright side of life.
10. It is a mindset that uses the words, “I can”, and “it is possible”.

Character Traits of People with a Positive Attitude

1. A positive attitude is mental outlook of optimism and of expecting good things to happen. People who possess this attitude are easier to get along with, are happy, and they spread joy around them.
2. A person with a positive state of mind does not dwell on the problems and difficulties of the past, and does not let them dictate his or her life. Such a person would rather learn from past mistakes and move on.
3. A positive attitude can affect your life favorably in all areas. People with a positive outlook, view life, challenges, and the situations they go through, with confidence and are sure they can deal with them.
4. These people would not be stuck in a negative attitude of fear, lack of self-esteem and passivity. People with a positive attitude will not let failure or obstacles stand in their way, and will always try to find ways to overcome them.

Develop the Qualities of People with a Positive Attitude

Start by dumping your negative thoughts. Do you often think about failure, and how bad your life is? You need to stop doing this. These thoughts perpetuate the negative situations.

When negative thoughts dominate your mind, you do not seek solutions and progress. You just see the negative and expect it. This affects your thinking and your actions, and unconsciously, makes you choose bad choices.

You need to refuse to think these thoughts and substitute them with positive thoughts about success and happiness. This might be difficult in the beginning, but with persistence, you will be able to change how you think.

Is positive attitude a part of your life, or do you let a negative attitude win? You can test yourself to find out.

Try to remember what kind of thoughts you had in the past 24 hours and write them down. Make two lists, one to include your negative thoughts, and another list, where you will write down your positive thoughts. Then, compare the two lists. Which one is longer?

Are all these negative thoughts worthwhile? Do you need them? Isn’t it better to get rid of them, and to substitute them with thoughts from your positive thinking list?